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Anna's Birthday [Jul. 19th, 2009|12:48 pm]
padredon
Later today we’ll be celebrating Anna’s birthday with a marvelous tea party. As much fun as the party will be that’s not what I want to talk about. Instead I want to talk about how wonderful Anna is (and probably make her blush in doing so).

We’re often told at places we frequent, how very much in love we look and I know how true that is. I don’t understand the idea that one shouldn’t be happy with their partner past a certain amount of time. I’m deliriously happy and can’t see that changing.

Anna has brought so much energy and joy to my life. If it weren’t for her, I doubt I would ever have made it to Edinburgh let alone seen s much of the UK and Europe. As it is I have wonderful memory of stumbling into a classy restaurant in Rome that was almost deserted because we were looking to eat at the uncivilized hour of 7:30 pm local time. I can remember huddling together against the wind in Lindisfarne eating bread and honey because almost everything on the island was closed. Likewise I have wonderful memories of watching Shakespeare by the Sea with her here in Halifax.

Anna’s also brought me strength to make my life better. Without her I wouldn’t have sought out the help that got me the cane and later the wheelchair of awesome. Her belief that I deserve better gave me strength and her example showed me how to explain that lack of accessibility and proper treatment was not acceptable. Five years ago I wouldn’t have dreamed of “making a fuss” about the fact that a hospital has made its walkways inaccessible, now I’ll make a fuss alright.

I don’t often talk about my life or relationships with people but on her birthday I did want t talk just a little about how amazing Anna is. She’s made my life immeasurably better t say nothing of the many other lives she’s enriched along with her many other achievements. I love her deeply and am very privileged to share my life with her.
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In which Don has a strange adventure [Jun. 10th, 2008|12:20 am]
padredon
On Thursday last I was getting ready to meet Anna at the tea shop when there was a knock at the door. Somewhat confused, I answered, chess set in hand (what would tea be without chess). It was an assistant super intendant for the building and he was recruiting for a music video. Would I be interested? Being the quick thinker that I am my reply was along the lines of "....uh .....ok?". He took a couple of mug shots and said I'd hear back the next day if they were interested.

On Saturday (note the two day space) I get back from Tai Ji to a message asking me to come down to a casting in less than an hour. Before long I'm sitting in a closed bar talking with people about costuming and do I have work boots that are more scuffed up and can I bring m other jeans to the filming s they can decide which ones the like best. This, of course, required half an hour of waiting while they decided what they were doing before we could discuss the costuming issues. Again, they'd call and let me know more details in the next day.

Late Sunday afternoon I get a call. Can I come down to this address. Its near the pier and rail yard. My call is 1 am and they don't know how long it will take but probably I'll be done by 3, oh and yes the will pay me.

So I trek down and wind up sitting with the other talent in a large warehouse on cheap folding chairs. On the plus side there was snack food and drinks. On the down side, except for the three minutes where the costume manager decided what colour of tank top I was to wear I sat until 4:30. Then it was rush rush rush to get into position, not that people were really sure where that was. As I'm being handed a shovel the scene is actually explained to me. I'm supposed to dig aa hole while the woman in the scene with me stands around looking bored and impatient.

By 5 am I'm back home and ver sleepy. I did find out as I left that the artist's name is Matt May.
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Men's Auxiliary [Apr. 24th, 2008|02:50 pm]
padredon
I’ll add my voice to the others who think highly of the Women Back Each Other Up project and the Men’s Auxiliary. The pledge is amazing.

As for the Men’s Auxiliary and what we can do, I think the issue of guys talking to one another is very important. Whether its gaming, anime, reenactment or any number of other spheres, there are a lot of guys who are involved that will ignore a woman who calls them on their bad behavior. Those same guys will very likely back down if one of their male friends calls them on their statements or actions. Its a sad reality of the world we live in but if we, as men, have the power to reign in a problem before it gets out of hand then we have a responsibility to do so. In a better world anyone could call a creepy guy on his words or actions that are out of line and creepy guy would listen. Sadly we don’t live in that world.

Lord knows this isn’t an easy idea. I’m too polite by far and anyone who knows me, knows I’d rather run screaming for the hills than risk a confrontation. The theory of calling our male friends on their bad behavior may not be that hard but the practice is. Add the taboo in geek social circles of criticizing anyone and it just gets harder.

There’s another element to this too, for those of us who are part of the Men’s Auxiliary and that’s to remember the point that, “none of us are saints”. Even if we are working to be part of the Men’s Auxiliary, if someone calls us on something we do we have a responsibility to stop, own our actions and when we’re done taking responsibility for what we’ve done, to go away and think about why those actions were out of line so that we don’t do the same thing again.

On the broader scale we can use the same power that allows us to reign in Creepy guy to educate before a problem starts. If a guy says something asinine even out of earshot of any woman we still need to point out that they’re out of line and explain why. If we’re being really proactive we can even start conversations rather than waiting to make an example of someone’s bad behavior.

There’s a lot we, as the Auxiliary, can do in support. It may not be as dramatic as the front line work at a crisis point but its still important. It may not be easy for us but the need is still there. This is the role of the Men’s Auxiliary as I see it.

I invite comments and ideas from others.
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Why I Can't Have Nice Things. [Apr. 9th, 2008|10:21 pm]
padredon
Me: I'm bored.

Don: How can you be bored? All this great stuff is happening in your life.

Me: Cuz I'm *Anna*, and I get bored really easily. Can we move?

Don: You just got here.

Me: Yes, but the weather is warming up and soon I'll have nothing left to complain about. Let's move to Singapore.

Don: You hate the humidity in Singapore.

Me: Thus, I would be happy, with something to complain about.

Don: Why do you make up these conversations and then put them in my LJ?

Me: Did I mention the bored bit? Tea pls.

Don: *sigh*
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Winnipeg Code? [Mar. 24th, 2008|11:25 pm]
padredon
Winnipeg Code

Apparently the Masons run Winterpeg.

I blame Dan Brown.
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Stupid Internet [Jan. 1st, 2008|11:46 am]
padredon
As a heads up, my home internet is down until at least Wednesday local time. I'm using public access in the meanwhile but it means that my interactions with the world will be sporadic in the meanwhile.
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Not Dead Yet [Dec. 31st, 2007|04:43 am]
padredon
Just got into the hotel. I is in much pain which is no surprise. Heathrow is still insane which is also not a surprise. Likewise, London cabbies being rude, not a surprise. Also, I hear there might be some connection between Ben and Glory.

I go rest now.
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(no subject) [Nov. 29th, 2007|08:57 pm]
padredon
At this very moment, as I'm typing this, troubleinchina is making expreso caramels in the kitchen. They smell divine although I'm periodically distracted from that by her mutterings about needing another 10 degrees of heat. In a few minutes I get to sample them, not that I'm taunting anyone or anything...really.
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(no subject) [Nov. 17th, 2007|07:30 pm]
padredon
The world we live in never ceases to sadden me. I can’t say disappointed because gross injustice happens far too often and regularly not to expect it. I know I don’t post often, especially about issues of the world great or small. People like troubleinchina express far better than I many of the deep injustices of the world.

None the less after reading this article on the BBC website http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/7098480.stm I’m left sickened all over again. This is the world we live in. The worst part is that incidents like this aren’t even oddities. They happen all the time. The only difference is this time a news source like the BBC decided to report the story instead of standing silent.

I don’t want to live in a world where the victim of a brutal crime is punished. No victim of rape is at fault for their rape. It doesn’t matter that the justice system that is so warped as to torture the victim of rape is on the far side of the world.

This is still our world. The weight of every injustice like this, every day, every time something happens, rests on all our shoulders. Often I feel like it is all I can do to keep standing under that weight. I envy those who keep fighting, who don’t let the horror and injustice of the world hold them back from trying to make changes for the better.

I don’t have a grand thesis or point to make with this. I only try and express my disgust at the state of the world and my own sense of powerlessness in the face of such expansive injustice. My God, My God, grant me the strength to serve your will and make this a better world.
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Anna [Sep. 20th, 2007|12:42 pm]
padredon
Anna is a fountain
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